Arguing in front of the kids – does it really matter?

Arguing in front of the kids – does it really matter?

The answer is yes, it really does.

Pretty much all couples argue at some point and conflict is an ordinary part of family life. However, when that conflict becomes “the norm”, children are affected.

Research has shown that children as young as six months old register their parents’ distress. Studies that followed children over a longer period of time show that children who are insecure at nursery were more likely to have adjustment problems later in school. Even older teenage children remain sensitive to parental conflict.

Some children react outwardly showing anger, aggression or behaving badly at school. Others become worried and often feel hopeless.

Later in life, when these children become adults, those adults can experience more emotional, social and even physical health problems.

If you feel conflict in your home has become “the norm” then you may want to discuss, confidentially, what your options are moving forward. If so, please contact Jo Scott or Sue McArthur on 0191 2970011 or at

What is Justice

So, we have a newly elected Prime Minister.  Well, he’s certainly new but can we say that he’s elected.  Unless you are a member of the Conservative Party, then you didn’t get to choose.  Is that right?  Is that fair?  Yes, according to half our office who say that the rules were clearly laid out and followed, and after a leadership contest, the Conservative party members chose who they wanted. No say the other half – this job is too important to be chosen by such a small demographic.  I find myself agreeing with both.

In my job, what is justice or what is fair is often difficult to say.  When the law is strictly followed it can lead to unfair consequences.

If you are facing a separation and you want the outcome to be fair then you should consider not only the legal process but also dispute resolution options, such as collaborative law and mediation, which can often mean that you retain more control over the process and much more control over the outcome.

If you are facing a separation you may want to discuss your options first, before making any firm decisions and therefore feel free to give either Jo Scott or Sue McArthur a call on 0191 297 0011